God’s Love Language

standard February 21, 2018 1 response

Did you know that over one million people get engaged every year on Valentine’s Day? Isn’t that wild? That means that roughly 500,000 new Pinterest boards titled “My Wedding!” are being created right now.

But after all the months of planning are over and the last dance at the wedding is finally done, the happy couple will soon begin the delicate art of discovering each other’s love languages.

Based on Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages, I’ve found that my personal love language is “words of affirmation.” It always warms my heart and makes me beam when my husband compliments me or when my daughter tells me that she likes something I’ve made for her. I thrive when I am praised for a job well done.

My husband on the other hand feels loved by “acts of service.” If I run a special errand for him, the man is happy as can be and looks at me with all the heart eyes.

Scripture tells us in no uncertain terms that God’s love language is OBEDIENCE. It’s what He desires from His children and it pleases His heart tremendously. The word “obey” occurs over 200 times in the Bible! We find it in the Old Testament passage found in Psalm 119:34 “Help me understand your instruction, and I will obey it and follow it with all my heart” as well as the New Testament passage in 1 John 2:5, “But if anyone obeys his word, love for God is truly made complete in them.”

However, obedience is not always easy. We must train our hearts and minds to want to obey God. We face countless amounts of temptation on a daily basis, but we need to realize that God is fully aware of each one of these struggles. Christ Himself was tempted, experiencing firsthand just how hard full obedience can be. Yet Christ valued His relationship with the Father, choosing obedience over comfort and because He did, we have the glorious gift of eternal life.

Relationship matters. If we are committed to knowing God’s Word and spending time with Him in prayer, then our love for Him will grow deeper each day. But what’s amazing is that it’s not one-sided. God reciprocates our obedience with blessings! Deuteronomy 28 mentions several blessings that are accompanied by fully obeying the Lord, such as blessings in our work, our children, and our daily routines.

Just as a new bride desires to shower her husband with love, we must teach ourselves to obey God’s instructions in order to show Him love. The beautiful result is a relationship that lasts!

Father, thank You for the opportunity to show You love by obeying your commands. My desire is to please Your heart. Teach me how to walk in obedience daily.

It’s Not the Dress That Makes the Bride Beautiful

standard June 24, 2015 1 response

Don’t you just love wedding season? Stately churches are decorated with gorgeous flowers.  Monogrammed programs and napkins are neatly stacked.  An endless processional ensues of bridesmaids wearing similar dresses of the latest fashion that may or may not be flattering to their body type.  The Father of the Bride holds out his arm to escort his “little girl” down the aisle and kisses her cheek before he gives her hand in marriage.  The mothers are crying softly and dabbing their eyes with a tissue.  Champagne toasts are given and decadent wedding cake is served until eventually the dance floor is filled with guests dancing to “Brick House” and “Brown Eyed Girl.”

There are so many things about weddings that I love, but my absolute favorite part is watching the face of the groom as the church doors open and there stands his bride in her wedding dress walking slowly toward him.  It gets me every time!

Recently my husband and I attended a Catholic wedding where the bride was of Hispanic decent. She was positively breathtaking with her olive skin and dark hair contrasting against the bright white of her dress. But that’s not what made her beautiful…

As the priest began to prepare the communion a small worship band began playing “Great Are You Lord” by All Sons & Daughters. The bride and groom were kneeling before the altar and quietly she began to worship the Lord as the band played. As the song progressed, I could see her moving with the music and opening her mouth to praise the Almighty as she sang these words:

All the earth will shout Your praise

Our hearts will cry

These bones will sing

Great Are You, Lord!

It struck me that on her wedding day, one of the most important days of her life, her heart’s desire was to worship her King with her soon-to-be husband by her side. She wasn’t concerned with what the guests were thinking, or if the train on her dress was straight, or even if the reception would be well attended…she was there to worship.


I couldn’t help thinking what the Father must have thought in that moment as He saw this beautiful bride, His child, bringing Him praise. Jeremiah 33:11 talks of the day when the voice of the bridegroom and the voice of the bride, the voices of those who sing, will bring thank offerings to the house of the Lord:

“Give thanks to the Lord of hosts,
for the Lord is good,
for his steadfast love endures forever.”

At the reception I was able to steal a quick moment of the bride’s time and I told her, “The Bride always steals the show, but you were absoultely beautiful. Thank you for your example of worship.”

Sing on, Beautiful Bride…Your Groom awaits.